Our regular weekly U3A session is mostly very informal and not too serious, we play Chicago scoring and any mistakes or irregularities are usually passed over.
But once a fortnight we have a duplicate session, Pairs Matchpoints, which is taken just that little bit more seriously and we're supposed to play 'by the book', more or less....
Today I was East as dummy in a 5♦ contract by West. I can't recall the exact deal but the spade suit was distributed soemthing like this:
♠Jxxx...................♠Qxx
North led their singleton A to which all followed, then South led their ♠K - out of turn. I suggested that this was a significant irregularity, so we called over the group leader (who was acting as TD). He said there were various options: declarer could accept the out-of-turn lead; he could ask North to lead, or not to lead, a spade; we could have the hand averaged, or whatever. My partner opted to accept the lead out-of-turn, and as dummy I assumed I wasn't in a position to argue about this.
Well, the obvious happened. North discarded on the second spade and then ruffed the third. One down before we'd even taken a trick.
I looked at the traveller afterwards (we were the last to play that board) and, although we weren't a 'bottom', we were well down the list, certainly going to be less than 50%. I felt tempted to complain to partner: "I wish you'd asked my opinion before accepting". But my partner is a better player than I am, I definitely ought to respect his opinion!
After the session I said to the TD, I wished we'd gone for the average, but it was too late then!
Am I right to be a wee bit miffed?