[barmar]

 Vampyr, on 2016-November-09, 22:23, said:

I would not use any criteria.

You don't even play on BBO, what difference does any of this make to you?

[helene_t]

 Vampyr, on 2016-November-09, 11:36, said:

OK, but we may not even have met each other, nor had any online contact. I would be very reluctant to use this "following" status to filter abusive language.

I think it makes some sense. If I use the F-word when communicating with a friend, it seems likely that it is normal part of a friendly conversation. We may not have met each other but the fact that we follow each other (i.e. we want to be noticed about each other's login) makes it likely that we are "friends" in the normal sense of the word.

OTOH if I use the F-word when communicating with someone who is not following me it seems more likely that it will be seen as unwelcome.

Of course, the criteria could err on both sides. But presumably a substantial part of the email flood that reaches abuse@... is related to prophanities and if that is so I can see why they want to have a filter that weeds out some of that flood.

[gordontd]

 barmar, on 2016-November-09, 22:51, said:

You don't even play on BBO, what difference does any of this make to you?

[Vampyr]

 barmar, on 2016-November-09, 22:51, said:

You don't even play on BBO, what difference does any of this make to you?

I am only stating my opinion. I have not said anything about the effect on me.

[barmar]

 Vampyr, on 2016-November-10, 08:28, said:

I am only stating my opinion. I have not said anything about the effect on me.

OK, but it seemed like you were stating them based on ignorance of how these settings are used on BBO.

Random users often follow people that they don't know, e.g. they follow star players so they can kibitz them. But the stars don't usually follow them back, so there's no mutual friendship relationship. When both players follow each other, it's reasonable to assume that they actually do know each other, and they know what their sensibilities are.

I've spent time with you in person at the bar after the game. I'm pretty sure I heard language from you that you wouldn't use at the bridge table.

[Vampyr]

 barmar, on 2016-November-10, 09:20, said:

OK, but it seemed like you were stating them based on ignorance of how these settings are used on BBO.

Random users often follow people that they don't know, e.g. they follow star players so they can kibitz them. But the stars don't usually follow them back, so there's no mutual friendship relationship. When both players follow each other, it's reasonable to assume that they actually do know each other, and they know what their sensibilities are.

I've spent time with you in person at the bar after the game. I'm pretty sure I heard language from you that you wouldn't use at the bridge table.

Maybe I am old-fashioned, because I think it is different when it is online chat. At least with someone you have never met in person.

[matmat]

 Vampyr, on 2016-November-10, 12:43, said:

Maybe I am old-fashioned, because I think it is different when it is online chat. At least with someone you have never met in person.

Are there any other behaviours of people who are complete strangers to you that you would like to control? Is it OK if I eat while playing bridge online? can I enjoy a beer while doing so?

[diana_eva]

Removed a rude post here and a reply quoting it.

[matmat]

 diana_eva, on 2016-November-11, 17:53, said:

Removed a rude post here and a reply quoting it.

Awww... but it was so on point!

[diana_eva]

 matmat, on 2016-November-11, 18:08, said:

Awww... but it was so on point!

Yours was

[Kaitlyn S]

 diana_eva, on 2016-November-11, 17:53, said:

Removed a rude post here and a reply quoting it.

Thank you

[Gazumper]

 wank, on 2016-October-30, 04:13, said:

(and you can't get any more private than a private message), is it anyone else's business?

Can TD's not see private messages at the table in between hands? I was playing in a zero tolerance indy tournament and the TD announced that whispers could be reviewed after reports of abuse.

[wank]

no. tournament directors can't see messages you've sent to other players, unless the other player went to the effort of taking a screenshot and emailing it to the director. bbo can investigate such things and review the chat logs if you email them. TDs are not connected to BBO admin.